snippit from a tribute to quincy jones

Strong women, or
women who just
wish they were strong,
need strong brothers
more than they need attentive lovers
or indulgent husbands.
They need brothers who have the courage
to say, your most recent behavior
does not become you --straighten up.
They need brothers who say,
you are brilliant and beautiful. Continue.
-M. Angelou

...couldn't have said it better myself.